Suicide is NOT a lauging matter..

I'm not gonna lie , I hate people who are judgemental.. Just because someone made a choice that seems stupid to you, doesn't mean you have the right to say bad things about this person..

Actually , I was talking about a video that I just found in a blog , about a girl who was in the verge of committing suicide.. I'm not going to elaborate more on the video , but you guys can definitely go check it out here : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LXKmT2ypunU

There were of course, lots of comments from other viewers. Some show some sympathized while others just throw on few choice words to this "unfortunate lady"..For me personally , I can feel her pain.. The person must go through the toughest moment in her life to be actually have that tendency of committing suicide.. And lemme tell you people , it's not for us to judge what kind of a person she is.. So , don't simply throw on a comment like

"Dasar menyusahkan.. apsal kecik2 lagi tak mati??"

"nak terjun pun masih teragak2, apa barang??? kalau ko nak sangat mati, pegi la telan racun"

"kalau aku, x kuasa aku nak bubuh tilam pi selamatkan minah bodoh tu.. baik aku suruh mati je cecepat.. menyusahkan org.. attention whore btol!"

"orang mcm ni kan, kalau dh masuk spital , trpaksa diselamatkan , guess duit sapa yg digunakan?? Our money beb!!"

What happen if the girl is alive and one day stumble upon the video and read through these nasty comments? I'm guessing that it would only make matter worst..Who knows that the girl will later have another suicide attempts just because of our "words"..We are no one but ourselves to blame..

My friends, suicide or depression is not a simple matter , nor it is for us to laugh about.. Some people might not have the strength or power to wield whatever bad things that happen in their live, or they might not having a good supportive environment to help them go through the tough times.. Going through depression , people might not having a clear perspective in lives.. It's like being in a darkest room where you can't even see a thing.. And you try to get out.. I know this because I have experienced it.. I know how is it feel to take your life just to end all this misery.. It's not that we take our life for granted , but depression make us blind.. That feeling of emptiness when you feel so hurt inside , you just gotta have something that would ease the pain.. Some people go to the extreme by cutting themselves just to ease the pain inside..

Okay.. Lemme lay down the facts WHY you should not take suicidal people lightly , or make a joke about them : (source : befrinders.org.my)

MYTHS	FACTS
Persons who talk about suicide, do not commit suicide	Of any 10 persons who will commit, 8 have given definite warnings of their suicidal intentions.
Persons who talk about suicide, do not commit suicide.	Studies reveal that suicidal persons give many clues and warning regarding their suicidal intentions.
Suicidal people are fully intent on dying.	Most suicidal persons are undecided about living or dying, and they “gamble with death”, leaving it to others to save them. Almost no one commits suicide without letting others know how they are feeling.
Once a person is suicidal, they are suicidal forever.	Individuals who wish to kill themselves are suicidal only for a  limited period of time.
Suicide strikes much more often among the rich, or,  conversely, almost exclusively among the poor.	Suicide is neither the rich man’s disease nor the poor man’s curse. Suicide is represented proportionately in all levels of society.
Suicide is inherited or “runs in the family”.	It follows individual patterns.
Improvement following a suicidal crisis means that the suicidal risk is over.	Most suicides occur about 3 months following the beginning of “improvement”, when the individual has the energy to put his morbid thoughts and feelings into effect.
Suicide attempters are just looking for attention.	Most people considering suicide are sincerely reaching out for help. Their cries should not be taken lightly.
Talking about suicide encourages people to do it..	When listened to with care, suicidal people get a chance to express themselves and may find relief.
All suicidal individuals are mentally ill, and suicide is always the act of a psychotic person.	Studies of hundreds of genuine suicide notes indicate that although suicidal people are extremely  unhappy, they are not necessarily mentally ill.

And the DOs and DONT's when you're with someone who is suicidal.. 

DO’s

Approach your friend and let him/ her know you have noticed.

Ask about his/ her well-being.

Listen to his/ her problems and feelings.

Be accepting, do not judge.

Be patient and gentle.

Show that you care.

Ask openly and directly if he/ she is thinking of harming himself/ herself.

Take threats seriously.

Get help.

DON’Ts

Don’t offer empty words or reassurance.

Don’t give up on your friends – maintain contact with the person at risk.

Never assume that talk of suicide is simply a manipulation for attention.

Don’t think that having previously failed an attempted suicide will prevent someone from another attempt.

Don’t minimize your friend’s pain

So friends, be a good friend to someone who in need of our care no matter how whinny and difficult the person may seems.. Don't be a bitch , coz honestly it isn't cool at all.. If you can't offer any help, give them words of comfort.. It might at least soothe their feeling.. Or if you are no good in words, just lend them your ears  by listening to their problems.. It can also help lightened their burden.. Just remember this old saying : Treat someone the way you wanted people to treat you..

And for those that are depressed and thinking of taking your life.. Take a deep breath.. and seek help, okay? Reach for someone.. Don't keep things for yourself.. If no one out there is care for you, know that there is one.. ALLAH do.. and I do.. Keep on prays and ALLAH will listen to you.. 

Also.. you could go to this link .. They are all professional and willing to help/listen to your problem.. and no worries.. at no charge at all.. :-) 

http://www.befrienders.org.my/contact.html

Remember.. you are not alone..